Before I talk about Be a Star and Stop the H8, let me tell you what I went through, starting in April.
It’s been several weeks since I was told that there is a hate site about me: http://encyclopediadramatica.ch/Codenamesailorearth Everything I do is reported on there. Even when I posted a video that stated “Post this and you show the world you have NO life other than to stalk me” they still posted it AND tried to defend themselves! They are PROUD of it!
A group of individuals have decided to stalk me, harass me, post defiled photos of my friends and family, and they’ve labeled me a whore who needs to hang herself.
For a month there was a separate hate blog devoted to my being “heartless, cruel and evil” and I have had to alter the settings on my accounts. A Vocaloid Wiki even had me on a blacklist~ which they did NOT tell me about for three weeks, and my name was left up until I was able to prove to them that I am not an “evil” person.
I was even told that I am pure evil because I am mixed race, my existence makes everyone I know retarded, and that all of my art is awful and if I know what’s good for me, I’ll shut up, let them make pornography photos of me, and then kill myself.
I was also told that this is all “Just for lulz” and that by fighting back, I am the one trolling my attackers, and I was called “Sailor Whore Meth Bitch”. We should all shut up and let cyber bullies have all the fun we want. Essentially “Take it and die, BITCH”.
The death threats and nasty messages started over a 3 minute CGI I made of popular Vocaloid character Miku Hatsune. Apparently although the owners of the character and software don’t care, if you change a costume on a model not deemed “alright” to change, you are evil, and you need to have ALL of the MMD/Vocaloid community rain down on you.
Once more, this is all over a CGI. And a majority of the people who attacked me are ADULTS.
There in lies the problem. Not so much what I went through, but the fact that we have more than one generation of ADULTS, who for lack of a better term, are bullies.
We live in a society that says that temper-tantrums and death threats are not only ok, they might get you on television. Why, for telling a child on YouTube to punch herself in the mouth, certain people are guaranteed a shot on Jersey Shore!
Bullies are no longer reduced to the playground. At work, you likely call yours “boss” or “employee of the month”. Online, they are strangers. Out and about you see bullies everywhere, and for the most part, the victim is told to suck it up. Deal with it. It’ll always be there. Like it.
Celebrities like Billy Corgan, Raven Simone, Katt Williams and Amber Rose deal with “haters” on a daily basis. Even 13 year old Rebecca Black now has a hate shrine devoted to her on ED, with porn photos provided by a 31 year old man in Australia. All because of her goofy hit “Friday” ~ a song she made for fun, not for any other reason.
We tell victims of this abuse all the time that if you’re a victim, YOU are the problem, and your bully has the right to hound you until you die. HE is the “real” victim, not you. Why if you weren’t “you” maybe he wouldn’t beat you up so bad, or she wouldn’t post photos of your dead veteran uncle with the word “Nigger” emblazoned on the top. It’s all your fault, stupid victim. YOU need counseling, your bullies are doing their job.
Police enforcement never steps in, until someone is dead. Even when they are confronted by a woman or child who is bleeding, the average cop just sighs heavily and says “Domestic dispute. Nothing I can do. Go home.” You even risk arrest if the police take the bully’s side over yours! And with so many people dead or on depression medication due to harassment, it hardly seems fair.
But hold on, not everyone is this cruel. Not everyone champions the bullies.
There are several well-intentioned people in America, who have started anti bully websites and coalitions. A few of them are right here, some even from the FBI:
Now granted, stalking laws themselves are still a joke in most states, and until you or your child is dead, your local police will REFUSE to help you (as mine did) but there is still hope. These sites may not get a hate shrine taken down on time, but it’s better than being told “you deserve it”.
Around the same time that I was changing the settings on one of my accounts, TNA started the “Eliminate the Hate” campaign:
And a few weeks ago, the WWE joined up with Be a Star:
Now on paper, BOTH campaigns sound like a very wise and sound idea.
Growing up, I turned to wrestling for comfort each time I was being bullied, either at school, in public or even by relatives I no longer speak to. I lived vicariously through ECW, which despite the violence had a very positive message, that no matter who or what you are, you can be a screw up, and still be a somebody. So this sounds like a natural choice for TNA and then WWE to make. (Hell, I’ll admit I took solace when they added Bryan to the commercial the week my hate site went up.)
But something is… missing?
True, the commercials are a positive addition to the big two’s programming, but they really aren’t backing it up.
The same week the 2nd WWE ad went viral, Bryan wrestled a match, in which commentator Michael Cole openly harasses Bryan over being a nerd and a vegan. He picked apart at every ounce of Bryan, even making jokes about Bryan’s Indy past.
Now in wrestling, usually when someone is picked apart like that, a confrontation is had where the perpetrator is chastised or at the very least, beaten. A match is booked, we have 3 weeks of back and forth banter, then the beating occurs, 1 2 3 the end. Classic.
Here? Nothing was done.
Cole picked apart 8 other wrestlers, even though he was told to stop.
Not only was there NO repercussions for his actions, he was rewarded with a nicer booth!
Over the last 6 months, we’ve seen this happen with other on screen characters. And yet, none of the characters get punished.
By now, those of you following John Cena are already sick of hearing about the time he made several Gay jokes. He’s a GOOD GUY, and is currently being super-marketed to CHILDREN as a hero, and yet he is free to make jokes not usually heard outside of a Jerry Springer re-run.
R-Truth, who was until recently a good guy, pointed out a lot of the racial based de-pushing that goes on in the WWE, and how Cena ~ who typically breaks the rules as mentioned before ~ is constantly in the limelight, while the rest of the roster is doomed to toil away in obscurity. All R-Truth asked for was a fair shake. A fair match. A fair shot. That’s all.
Last night was the PPV. R-Truth was asked to job out after a water cup to the face. Cena was rewarded with the pretty belt. HUH??
Other wrestlers crack jokes about the color of Sheamus’s skin color. Sheamus is the “bad” guy.
Kharma was picked on for being a large woman and pregnant, not only on television, but on Twitter as well. And the bad girls weren’t alone either, even the so-called “good girls” of the Diva locker-room blasted her openly on Twitter!
Randy Orton, outed in the press many years ago for defecating in Michelle McCool’s purse in real life, and who openly admitted to smoking pot, is now being pushed as a good guy for television. Everytime he pokes fun at Christian’s 5’10 frame, he’s handed another chance to pick his own matches.
NXT and Tough Enough respectively, are based on young wrestlers with dreams of stardom, being attacked and bullied by the people they looked up to as children. Those men and women are constantly being told that they are “stupid” and will never amount to anything, because of who they are.
TNA is no better. It’s only been within recent months that they finally ceased a storyline in which the “Beautiful People” promised to cleanse the world “one ugly person at a time” each girl involved with the “cleansing” was rewarded with a title belt, and top billing.
Eric Bischoff recently was seen on screen making fun of Brian Kendrick, Amazing Red and Generation ME, because they are under 6’2, and he even said flat out that as long as they were short, they would never amount to anything, and this, they were unworthy of a push. He is still on top as a leader on television, while the afore mentioned men are currently trying to hang onto their spots on the low card.
Both companies started off with campaigns with worthy intentions, and yet neither seems capable of backing any of it up.
In fact if you asked the people in charge at WWE and TNA respectively, they would likely tell you that the storylines are “just for fun TV” not meant to be taken seriously. Who cares if the “little guy” or the “different guy” gets blasted on TV, what does it have to do with my campaign?
The sad truth, is that it may have everything to do with it.
Now for the record, Be a Star is a website:
Speaking as someone who has dealt with bullying and is currently being cyber stalked, I can say the site is based on good intentions.
BUT ~ a good intention is NOT a whole organization. It's just a very happy thought, really.
The anti-bully campaign WWE has started, was recently met with criticism via the Huffington post, for their past and present contradictory behavior:
TNA’s campaign was met with nothing but criticism, even from victims of bullying.
Why? Because nobody is taking it seriously, starting with the big two.
If these two companies want their fanbase(s) to take this seriously, they need to back up their own campaigns. And for this to work, look no further than tapes of ECW.
As I said before, ECW was based on the belief that you can be a screw-up in society, but with perseverance and determination, you can be anything you want to be. They proved that you can be short, tall, Black, White, Goth, covered in barbed wire, or anything else, and you can be a champion.
This is the right idea for this day and age! And it takes no money and no time to re-create for today’s television.
For example, let’s re-visit the Sheamus story I mentioned earlier. If these people were serious, they would market a victim of bullying as a hero. Instead of Sheamus having to deal with people calling him “Wendy” or “Mayonnaise” why not have Sheamus cut a promo, where he says that the bullying won’t hold him down. That the teasing from haters makes him stronger. Have him be a hero to children who stands up to bullies.
Have Cena and Orton be heels, and have them face off against the people they made fun of. Make up a new character that represents someone Cena might have offended, and let Cena grow into a new role. Even Hogan was a heel once, and made it work.
Why not let R-Truth start a group, consisting of men from different walks of life, who band together and prove that you don’t need to be John Cena to hold the belt. Call it something catchy like 3 Live Krew or something. This is still being marketed as a kids and family show, right?
Velvet Sky, formerly of the Beautiful People is a face now. Why not have her cut a promo on how her prior “cleansing” existence wasn’t fair, and show her turning her life around? It may not be much, but it would sell tickets in Florida.
Have WWE film crews follow Kharma the way they followed HHH when he had the quad tear. Have them show the bravery this young woman has as she puts her career dream on temporary hold, in order to provide proper healthcare for her child. Show the little girls watching that it’s never alright to harass others for their size, and that you can be a mommy, AND be whatever else you want to be as well.
Why not let Bryan club Cole over the head, and show him that the word “Loser” is not spelled N-E-R-D?
It’s really not impossible for these two to back up their campaigns, and with all the negative press, now is the perfect time to turn things around.
But until they do, it looks like Eliminate the Hate and Be a Star, are just clever PR stunts.